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I couldn’t be this person now if I hadn’t gone through that difficult period of my life. It was a period of my life that really built or actually rebuilt my character...It’s a deep-seated confidence right from inside here.

When a loved one is making trouble for me, I've learnt through trial and error that sometimes I need to act, and sometimes I don't. But definitely the worse thing I can do is to RE-act...After a certain amount of time, the trouble fades away.

Identifying them is one part of it but because I know who they are I can “expect” to have trouble from them at any time and I can be ready for it...I just have to not take it personally.

Explore the correlation between pain and behavioural change. Understand how physical discomfort and stress can shape our priorities and decision-making skills.

Life changes from time to time, but in between these changes are long periods where things are the same. In the last ten years, my life has been changing in a good way and there have been some, what I would call landmark changes, mixed in with other smaller changes. The spaces in between the changes are important for me for a couple of reasons. They help me adjust and prepare for what comes next.

Every day, from when I wake up to when I go to bed, my life is a series of choices. And each choice is important. Recognizing the clues and what is a clue is the key for me. Just as important as choosing the right thing to do is recognizing when I should stop doing something.

Another thing that I involuntarily do is to think about different periods from my past. They are all things that I regret but when I'm stuck in this mode of looking back, I am able to see the experience in a different way to how I saw it before. And this can be quite jarring, but seeing what I did without any of the emotions attached to it is definitely a good thing for me.

The worst thing I can do to someone is to try to control them. Individual freedom is very important and nobody wants to feel like they can’t decide for themselves what to do. A lot of my trouble and conflict with people comes from me. Even the very small things, like how a conversation goes, requires me to be sensitive or even hyper-sensitive to the flow of the conversation and the motivations of the people involved.

Between periods of action, I've learned to cherish the times when I simply have to wait. These moments demand patience, as change - whether in family, job or everything else - can only happen in one area at a time. These small improvements and changes are the signs that my life is steadily progressing.

I've learned the importance of seizing the right opportunity at the right time. Recognising when I've chosen to do the wrong thing is as crucial as understanding when it's time to stop and change course. The timing of our actions can save us a lot of trouble.

I've come to understand that everyone has their own viewpoints. It's not about convincing them to adopt mine, but rather to appreciate the diversity of thoughts and ideas. By refraining from arguing and instead fully committing to what I've chosen, I've learned to win without necessarily needing to be right.

Acknowledging my motives has allowed me to view myself more objectively. This clarity has significantly transformed how I interact with those around me. Despite the optimism, I understand that people may let me down, and that's on me. However, resilience lies in getting up, dusting off and moving forward.