Why Things Happen to You That You Didn’t Choose

Many things happen to you in the course of a day or a week. These things didn't come from you; you didn't start them, and they are clearly outside of your sphere of influence. So where do these things come from, and why do they happen to you?

Well, some of them come from other people when you are inside their area of influence, and of course, everyone is affecting everyone else all the time. For example, someone might make a decision that affects you, or if it's at work, the company might make a change that impacts your life. As well as with what they do, this also includes people affecting you with what they say.

And some of these things give you anxiety, especially when you think about the future. So how should you deal with these things? You will deal with each thing in a different way, so the important thing is how to look at them so that you can deal with them in the right way.

If you could choose by yourself all of the things that are going to happen to you, then you would always choose the easy option. And that makes sense. We all want a nice, easy life.

But the reality is, the things that come to you are often not easy. They are challenging, difficult, and sometimes unpleasant. And there's no way around them.

But these things are also the building blocks of who you are and what your life is like. And that is because of what they do to you and why. In short, they change you.

They push you to act and react. They make you find a solution. And in doing so, they take your life where it needs to go.

And your life, as with everyone's life, needs to go towards the goal of making you more than you were before. And by that, I mean making you a better version of yourself than the one you are now. But there are other events that happen that are extremely important that haven't been covered yet, and these have nothing to do with what you or other people have done.

These are the things that come into your life seemingly from nowhere but which alter the course of your life forever. So how should we also deal with these things? You can't look at these things in the same way as you do the things that come from other people because they don't work to make you more than you were before in the same way.

So what is their purpose? These events change you in a bigger way. Their effect is so powerful that the result is that part of you is now different and can never be how it was before.

Now, being different from how you were before is not the same as being more than you were before, but it is better for you, and that's because of what can happen next. These events end the path that you were on and lead you onto a new path. And this new path has the potential for you to become an even better version of yourself than the last path.

It will unlock a completely different set of potential events in your future, enabling you to end up in a much more different and better place than the path you were previously on. Often these events, that are out of your control, can seem bad or negative when they first happen, but it's important to delay judgment on them until you can see what they are leading to. Reacting to what is happening to you right now is natural and normal, but it is also short-sighted.

You'll gain a lot more from it if you see it as an opportunity for your own betterment.
A more complete exploration of these ideas can be found in the book Enhanced Sense Living.

The Experiences That Quietly Change Who You Become

As you have gone through your life, certain experiences have shaped and changed you. But not all of your experiences have changed you. So, what experiences have made you into who you are today?

Experiences that change you are ones that make you think you are not good enough. And this covers a wide range of experiences that I'll get into later, but first, let's look at how they change you. You might imagine that negative experiences like this would have an adverse effect on you, but , the opposite is true, and this is because of how you react.

When you feel that you aren't good enough, you start to question, first of all, whether you really aren't good enough, but also why you think you aren't good enough. You compare yourself to other people and see if they are lacking in that area too. And you start trying to defend yourself and make yourself think that you are good enough.

All of this starts a process in your mind that leads you to try to meet this elusive standard you have set for yourself, and slowly over time, this changes you. But what is the point of you changing, and why do you need to change at all? Well, the reason is that you change because it makes your life easier in the future.

It will benefit you to think and act in a slightly different way because you will be better able to handle the situations you are faced with. In other words, you will be more suited to dealing with them. So let's look now at the different kinds of experiences that change you by making you think you are not good enough.

When someone criticizes how you've done something or even why you've done something, this makes you question yourself. And even when you think you are right, their comment still plays on your mind and causes you to go over what you did and justify it to yourself. Another experience is when you make a mistake.

Seeing for yourself that you've done something wrong doesn't make it easier, and you'll still beat yourself up about it, but you will definitely change how you act next time. And finally, you can think you aren't good enough when you are doing something that causes you to compare yourself to other people or compare your life to other people's lives. Of course, this is a natural thing that we all do, and there are different degrees of it.

So this experience will only change you if you strongly feel bad about yourself compared to this person. So now that we know what is happening, we need to know how to react to what is happening and what to do to get the most out of it? First of all, you need to swallow your pride.

If you resist the need to change, then you will just slow down this very necessary process. It's important that you be honest with yourself and don't fight against it. Just recognize what needs to be done and work to better yourself.

So where will you end up after all this change? Well, as this cycle repeats of you feeling like you're not good enough, then reacting against it and slightly changing how you think and act, then you will eventually be a very different person. And this is beneficial for one very important reason, and that is because you will be someone who has an enhanced sense of how to live your life.