Recognising the Purpose of This Period of Your Life

Our lives have purpose, or to be more accurate, our lives have many purposes. As we go through our lives, each period has its own purpose. But a purpose is not something that we make up by ourselves.

It's something that already exists in our lives. We have one right now in this part of our lives. Either we don't know what it is or it's something that we are already doing, but we haven't acknowledged it as our purpose.

So if we don't know what it is, then we are missing an opportunity to achieve it. Also, if we did know what it was, we could more clearly focus on it and get a more meaningful experience from it. But let's take a step back for a second and ask, what is a purpose?

A purpose is a goal in a specific area of our lives. It is something that can only be achieved by us but could be for us or for the people around us. So how can we find the purpose of this part or any part of our lives?

We need to be careful here because there could be something that we want our purpose to be or something that we feel strongly that our purpose is, but really it isn't. So how can we know that something is our real purpose? That's really down to what is generating the need for that purpose.

Always, a purpose is wrapped up in our daily lives. It is related to the main theme of what we are going through at the time, so it could be related to work, family, or our private lives. So in one of these areas, the need for that purpose keeps trying to get our attention more than anything else, and while we are in this particular period of our lives, it will keep coming up and making itself known to us.

It could be a problem, an issue, or something we keep thinking about more than anything else. It could be an area that causes stress or where we get criticized by others, or a place where there's conflict. But it's definitely something that repeats.

, it's down to us. When we are trying to find it, it will bring with it a "knowing" that it's the right thing. There is nothing more valuable than really knowing something.

And we must remember that "knowing" is a feeling, not just a thought. So once we've identified what that thing is, the next step is to work out what we need to be doing about it. So what is a purpose trying to do?

Every purpose, of course, is trying to improve our lives in a small or sometimes a big way. But it's best to think of them as building blocks on the way to a bigger purpose. So we should look for how we can elevate the particular situation we have identified and how our input can alter it.

Purposes are pieces of the puzzle that help us make gains in our lives if we can focus on them and commit to them. And, of course, while we are pursuing a purpose, it brings us all of the experiences that go along with working towards that purpose. And these experiences help to shape and change us.

And we mustn't forget that it's okay if we make a mistake finding the purpose for this period of our lives, as long as we realize and try again. If we are wrong, we'll soon find out because we'll meet a lot of resistance to what we are doing. That's not to say that our purpose won't be challenging, but if it becomes unreasonably difficult, then we are on the wrong track.

Getting Through Bad Moments and Leaving Space for Good Ones

We all have good days and bad days, or even good mornings and bad afternoons. And when things are going well, we get lost in the moment, and sometimes when things are going badly, we can't escape from it no matter what we do. And clearly, in both of these cases, there are times when things are out of our control.

Events are happening that we have nothing to do with, and they are what is making us have fun or be miserable. But at other times, what is happening IS dependent on what we are doing and on what we are choosing. So, it makes sense that we could do things differently or choose different things, and situations would turn out differently.

But nobody is perfect, and we can't predict what results our actions will cause as we go through a regular day. And of course, we don't want to change anything when things are going well, but we would all like to change the times that are going badly. And it is possible.

But only if we can recognize when things are starting to go wrong. Usually, the red flags of this are people's reactions, or we suddenly feel stressed or panicked. These are early warning signs and the signal to take action and not follow the course that we are on, which will pull us further into a bad situation.

But what action do we need to take? Well, we can turn things around by quickly throwing ourselves into any task that keeps us busy for a while. So, during our day, if we feel that things are starting to turn on us either with the people around us or with the thing we are doing, we should always look for something that can mentally or physically engage us.

Usually, this means doing something alone, and the simpler and more repetitive it is, the better. By doing this, we haven't exactly escaped from what is happening, but we are doing something very important. Difficult periods can only last for a certain amount of time.

They are all time-dependent, and when that amount of time has run out, the difficult period ends. So, by keeping ourselves busy with something unrelated, we are running down the clock, and although we can still feel the tension of it, we are not taking part in it and making it worse for ourselves. And by the time we have stopped doing whatever we chose to do, we'll find that we have sidestepped the bad time that we were starting to have.

So that's the difficult times, but what about the good times? How can we maximize the times when we can have fun? The answer to this is all in the planning.

When we plan to do anything for fun, we should always leave space for the unknown to happen. And the way to do this is by not planning all of the details of what we are going to do. And the reason for this is that we experience fun when we do something spontaneously.

So if we leave space in our plan, it allows these spontaneous things to happen. Another thing to be careful of is if the planning is starting to get too complicated. If it is, then it's best to give it up and do something else.

We always need to read what's possible at the time because forcing something to happen will never turn out to be fun for anyone, least of all ourselves.